B ME Bites 5: Why Do You Do What You Do? - Part 3

Welcome to edition #5 of B ME Bites! This week is Part 3 of the series titled “Why Do You Do What You Do?” As discussed in editions over the past 2 weeks, there’s a reason why you do everything you do, whether it’s a habit that serves you or not. This week, you’ll find out who’s really the king or queen of the castle!

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Featured Topic: Your Behaviour is 95% Unconscious!

One of the biggest mistakes you can make when trying to make healthy changes, is to focus on the external. For instance, focusing on the number on the scale, on the size of your clothing, the way that your body looks, and making changes accordingly. So often you’re told that you “just have to eat less and do some exercise” and thus you go about treating the symptoms, rather than trying to get to the root cause of the problem. You get results in the short term, but how long do those results last? If you don’t remove the root cause of the problem, the symptoms will continue to reappear over and over again.

Another massive mistake is to try to make changes using willpower and the conscious mind alone. Did you know that of your cognitive activities which include behaviour, emotions, decision and actions, only 5% is conscious? That means that a whopping 95% of what you do is carried out unconsciously.

So what does this mean? It means that if you’re consciously trying to make a change of any kind and it’s not happening, there is usually something going on in your subconscious that is stopping you.

Let’s use a king or queen and their knights as an example. The king or queen is the ruler of the realm and commands the knights. The king or queen gives orders and the knights carry out those orders. However, what happens if the knights don’t agree with what the king or queen is trying to do? What can they do? They can either choose to follow the king or queen’s orders, or, they could choose to overthrow the king or queen and carry out their own agenda.

The king or queen is your conscious mind and the knights are your unconscious mind. When you are making a change, the king or queen will give the command and when the knights do as they’re ordered, you’re successful at making the change. However, if the knights decide that they don’t agree with the king or queen’s orders, for whatever reason, then you will be unable to make the change long term, no matter how hard you try.

So whilst it’s entirely possible to create massive change in your life, it’s important to understand that if the change that you’re trying to create isn’t happening, it’s likely that you need to take a different approach. There are valid reasons for why you do what you do, whether you understand them or not and when you accept that concept, it makes it much easier to effect change because it opens you up to other ways to achieve the same outcome.

There’s a reason why you do everything you do. Why do you do what you do? Who’s in charge of you?

Reader Spotlight

So excited and grateful to have Debra send in the following in response to last week’s edition:

Thank you for your wise words Debra and totally agree!

Weekly Challenge

Your mission for this week, if you choose to accept it, is to do the following:

Think about a goal that you set for yourself that you haven’t succeeded in achieving yet, and analyse who is in charge - you, the king or queen? Or your knights? It’s most probably your knights, so ask yourself the question about why they may not agree with the orders they have been given. Part 1 and Part 2 of this series could be helpful for you, so go back and read them again if nothing comes to mind initially.

If you need some help, feel free to hit reply - let’s help you get started if you’re stuck!

B ME Bites is deliberately sent on a Friday morning (Aussie time) so that where ever you are in the world, you have the weekend to give yourself the gift of implementing a small change towards a better you. What will that small change be? Is there a change that you have been trying to make and haven’t yet succeeded? Give it another go, applying the above - you can do it!

Resource Roundup

If you want to find out more about the unconscious mind, I found a great article on Brian Tracy’s website here.

If you want to learn more from Brian, you can check out his Personal Transformation Masterclass here.

If you missed the previous 2 parts to this series, you can find Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

Below is a resource list that has been created with you in mind. Whenever something new that could be helpful is discovered, it’s added to the list, so check it out from time to time. If you’re strapped for time, once you open the page below, scroll down to the Resource List section and click on the “Health Tools” link for a list of items that could be helpful on your path to a better you.

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Until next week, keep taking one S.T.E.P.S step at a time! (If you missed the issue explaining The S.T.E.P.S Formula, you can check that out here)

Warm regards,

Shari Ware Chief Encouragement Officer at B ME Bites