B ME Bites 4: Why Do You Do What You Do? - Part 2

Welcome to edition #4 of B ME Bites! This week is Part 2 of the series titled “Why Do You Do What You Do?” As discussed in last week’s edition, there’s a reason why you do everything you do, whether it’s a habit that serves you or not. This week, it’s all about your WHY!

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Featured Topic: It’s not just about your WHY!

You’ve heard many times that your WHY is important. Simon Sinek shot to fame after his Ted Talk on the subject went viral, which then inspired the book, “Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action” - now a series of 3 books.

Simon was talking from the perspective of how leaders inspire others to take action and he’s spot on the money of course. When it comes to how you get yourself to take action though, it’s not just your WHY that’s important. Or rather, it’s not only your reasons why you WANT to do something, that play a role in your success.

Herewith enters another book that discusses the importance of your WHY, called “The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness”, by Noah St John. In this book, Noah says, “You can never solve a Why-To problem with a How-To solution”. So what does that mean exactly?

For everything you do, there are reasons why you want to do something and also reasons why you don’t want to do something, whether you’re aware of them or not. Sometimes, the reasons why you don’t want to do something outweigh the reasons why you do. This is when you fail. The best way to explain it, is to imagine a set of balancing scales. If more weight is put on a plate on one side than the other, then the scales become unbalanced and tilt to one side. This is what can happen with your WHY. It’s not that you don’t know HOW to do something, it’s that you don’t want to do it more than you actually want to do it and the scales are tipped in the wrong direction.

For instance, if someone is a smoker and they want to give up smoking, some reasons why they want to stop could include better health, better skin or saving money. They’re great reasons and most would believe that they would be great motivators. However, if the person has just as many reasons or stronger reasons why they don’t want to, such as smoking meeting the 3 of the 6 human needs of Certainty, Variety and Love/Connection that we spoke about last week, then they will likely struggle to stop smoking, if they succeed at all.

So, if there is a goal that you have been trying to achieve and you haven’t succeeded yet, it’s imperative that you examine not only your Why-To reasons, but also your Why-Not-To reasons. You may not be consciously aware of them, but they will be there nonetheless.

There’s a reason why you do everything you do. Why do you do what you do? What are your Why-To’s and Why-Not-To’s?

Reader Spotlight

Shout out to Krista who left the following review after reading “Healthy! Beautiful Inside & Out ”:

It may be April now, but it’s never too late to start! You can find a link to this book here.

Weekly Challenge

Your mission for this week, if you choose to accept it, is to do at least one of the following:

a) Think about a goal that you set for yourself that you haven’t succeeded in achieving yet, and analyse your Why-To’s and your Why-Not-To’s; or

b) Think about a goal that you set for yourself that you WERE successful at achieving, and analyse your Why-To’s and your Why-Not-To’s.

If you need some help, feel free to hit reply - let’s help you get started if you’re stuck!

B ME Bites is deliberately sent on a Friday morning (Aussie time) so that where ever you are in the world, you have the weekend to give yourself the gift of implementing a small change towards a better you. What will that small change be? Is there a change that you have been trying to make and haven’t yet succeeded? Give it another go, applying the above - you can do it!

Resource Roundup

If you haven’t seen Simon Sinek’s famous Ted Talk, here it is:

You can find a link to Simon’s “Start With Why” book series on Amazon here.

If you want to check out “The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness” by Noah St John, you can check it out on Amazon here.

If you missed last week’s edition talking about the 6 Human Needs and how they play a part in why humans do what they do, you can read it here.

Below is a resource list that has been created with you in mind. Whenever something new that could be helpful is discovered, it’s added to the list, so check it out from time to time. If you’re strapped for time, once you open the page below, scroll down to the Resource List section and click on the “Health Tools” link for a list of items that could be helpful on your path to a better you.

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Until next week, keep taking one S.T.E.P.S step at a time! (If you missed the issue explaining The S.T.E.P.S Formula, you can check that out here)

Warm regards,

Shari Ware Chief Encouragement Officer at B ME Bites